Can I just say reading and books are amazing? In my last post I was fretting about feeling under-prepared to be a Mom, and about the fears associated with, you know, giving birth to and parenting another human being – a CHILD version of one at that, with an immature brain and lots of primal needs that are communicated through oodles of crying. But rather than continuing to be consumed with worry, I resolved to start educating myself so as to better “prepare” for this life changing event that is coming in just 7-weeks. 7 weeks (hopefully)!
A friend, who once also blogged about her struggles with infertility, but who is now happily consumed with mothering her 3-month old son, sent me a book that she wished she had read sooner, Dr. Harvey Karp’s The Happiest Baby on the Block. I procrastinated reading it at first, but when I finally started I finished in a few days. It was an excellent, reassuring, and excitement inducing read (seriously). I believe it has helped prepare me to be the best mother I can be to my little baby Daphne in her “4th Trimester” or the 3-4 months that proceed birth. Because to be honest, the thing I was most afraid of, am most afraid of, is a screaming baby I won’t be able to comfort, especially given my lack of experience with infants!
Dr. Karp’s book teaches parents techniques to settle a “colicky” infant during their most fragile time. Those techniques are rolled into the 5 S’s, or Swaddling, Side/Stomach position (but not during sleep), Shushing, Swinging, and Sucking (did you know pacifier use after the first month when a baby is used to breastfeeding, can reduce the risk of SIDS? Obvi, I didn’t know any such thing!).
Now after reading this awesome book, I can’t wait to swaddle the #$%T out of little Daphne. I can’t wait to rise to the challenge of meeting her needs. I can’t wait to help ease her transition from the warm wiggly womb into the big cold, but beautiful world. It feels good to be excited, because as I’m sure you could tell I was feeling more nervous than anything before I started to get into this mom mindset.
Moms to be, are there any books you’re reading to prepare for child birth and infant care? Veteran moms, any you recommend? The more I can educate myself the better!
In between reading The Happiest Baby, watching Constitutional Law lecture videos, and continuing the arduous, but fun task of settling into our new home, we’ve been working on Daphne’s nursery. Even though we plan to co-sleep with either a bassinet/co-sleeper by the bed or the protective cocoon that goes between both parents until the end of 4-months, I’m thrilled we’ll have a place for all her baby goodies. You’ll see by the pictures that the room is still not 100% ready (we need a glider, a changing table, and a crib mattress), but we’re getting there. You’ll also see that I’ve strayed away from the traditional girly colors in favor of a more gender neutral theme, though I didn’t try to be “gender neutral” on purpose. I just personally only like pink in moderation, meaning I know she’ll be wearing lots of pink for the first year of her life and so a wall to wall pink palace might be a little too much for both of us! BUT I am a little disappointed at how light the paint color looks in my photos below. That’s something I’ve been learning a lot about in decorating my new home, playing it safe isn’t always the best route, especially in large spaces.
Before I leave you with our nursery photos, I have a confession. At my last doctor’s appointment I supposedly gained 9 lbs in two weeks! This puts my total weight gain at 35 lbs with 7 weeks to go. Now it was a very hot day and I felt like I was retaining water (denial anyone) so I’m hoping I’ll stabilize by the next appointment. As my doctor so eloquently put it, “stop eating so much!” Yeah. I’m going to make a concentrated effort to avoid eating a desert after every meal, but I’m just SO HUNGRY (for carbs, especially for sugar and carbs). And thank God for the daily hour long walks or I’d be a hippo by now. Here’s my 33 week photo. My arms are thicker. My ass is bigger. But I just really don’t care that much. I still feel strong and energetic and fit. Besides Daphne’s fattening up right now and doesn’t need me to be on a diet. Supposedly she’s to gain 1/2 a pound every week for the next 7 weeks.